Single, but I don't want to be

[broken_dreams]

Nothing sucks more than falling for your best friend... we talked about it once before and I know we both feel the same way, I just don't know if I want to do anything about it or not... he's fantastic! In EVERY way possible he is the guy for me, I know this! But I don't know what to do... will this ruin our friendship if we try to make the transition from friends to lovers?

[Rellie]

If you don't even try, you will regret it. Even if it doesnt work out, at least you tried.

[Traneei]

Look, you'll never know if you don't try.

Sometimes the best relationships out there start from a friendship, you already know them, you know what they like and don't like, you won't drag them off to do something they don't want to, and they won't drag you off to do something you don't want to do.

If you like each other in the same way why not try, the transion will be okay. Everyone is nervous about that, but if it really where a problem...then why would you have those feelings and why would anyone do it?

Just thoughts.
Traneei.

[apeng]

Broken dreams,

There is no such thing as best friends among opposite sex. They are attraction to each other disguise as close friendship. If you want him go for him. If he wants you he will accept you. The conseqeuence is if it doesn't work, you will lose him as what you call your best friend. He is just as fair game as anyone you meet in the street.

Good luick.

[majali]

Hi all
Transition from friends to lovers? it's like loto you might lose a close friend or win the loto which is love
Good luck broken_dreams
yours Majali

[sweetesting]

pretty damn sure that sucks...

[Adam Mordo]

Broken dreams,

There is no such thing as best friends among opposite sex. They are attraction to each other disguise as close friendship. If you want him go for him. If he wants you he will accept you. The conseqeuence is if it doesn't work, you will lose him as what you call your best friend. He is just as fair game as anyone you meet in the street.

Good luick.

I beg to disagree. My best friend is a girl and we've been such since 1995. My wife and her are good friends. Platonic relationships are possible between men and women I believe.

Anyway, Broken Dreams, it really is up to you if you want to risk it. Some friendships can survive it, others can't. How strong is your relationship with this guy? Do you have any idea how he might feel about you? If you do get together and then break up, would your friendship be lost as well? Loving ultimately, is a risk. So be wary. Look before you leap. Best of luck girl.

[NotGertrude]

Once you've fallen, it's almost impossible to go back! I think you have to at least TRY, just so you don't spend the rest of your life with the 'what if' in your head.

Go for it!

[troubled8]

yea i have a similar problem:

So my best best friend is of the opposite sex, an extremely gorgeous girl that any guy in our grade would love to date. After knowing her for a year since moving from out of state, I am starting to fall for her.

The problem is she just broke up with one of my friends that I'm also close with after they dated for a year and still somewhat have feelings for each other.

But she sends me mixed messages sometimes with overly nice comments. Not just to be a friend but ones that seem to turn me on for her. We write long notes to each other in class, and flirt but still maintain that we are just best friends. But I feel more than that. I WANT more than that and I don't know what to do.

Anyone who can help in any kind of way is greatly appreciated

[prinsnezar]

u know somthing me too want to try this cuz really i loved my close friend